For there are these three things that endure: faith, hope and love, but the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:13
In Newtown on Christmas Day, love and grief were mingled. At St. Rose of Lima Roman Catholic Church, hundreds of families filed into Mass, white-haired couples, a little girl with sparkly pink shoes holding her father's hand, teens with their heads bowed as they texted the last few lines before entering unter the banner that read:
The light shines in the darkness and the darkness has not overcome it. John 1:5
"We have not only witnessed one of the greatest tragedies in the world, but we as a community are called to do what we can to move forward," Monsignor
Frank Skrelja, who attended Mass at St. Rose, found the holy day both painful and a balm to his spirit.
"We celebrate the birth of a baby," Skrelja said, and that reminds him of the 20 first-graders murdered at
Skrelja has twin 13-year-old sons, and he moved to Newtown five years ago from Yonkers, N.Y. He also said: "It was comforting because we gathered together, the community, and you feel like you're not alone."
Many people chatted with fellow parishioners after the service, giving warm hugs, and heartfelt partings of "God Bless You."
God is with you all the time. I hope you feel better, Love, Daniella (age 8)
Cooper Carlile, 10, set down Daniella's card, with a smiling angel on its cover, at the memorial in front of the Catholic church. Cooper comes to Connecticut most years at Christmas to visit his uncle Bill Gasdaska. Gasdaska wiped away tears as Cooper tucked dozens of homemade cards under stuffed animals, so they wouldn't blow away.
Cooper, who attends a Catholic school in Houston, suggested to his school's principal that the children make cards for the grieving town.
His mother, Jane Gasdaska, said that usually when you think of 10-year-old boys, you think of "how many times they can say the word poop," and she was a little surprised that her son wanted to make this gesture, and so proud that he followed through.
His own card urged everyone to keep love, and guard against hatred. He explained that it's a mistake to drown in self-hatred, or to be angry at the man who did the killing. "You just have to pray," he said.
Christmas felt different this year, his mother said, more patient, more grateful.
She said that the family brought the cards from Texas because "we just wanted people here to know everywhere, we ache for them."
You are loved. Megan, Aberdeen, NJ — one of the 50,000 texts from teens, displayed on a "Stay Strong Newtown" banner posted on the bridge over the Pootatuck River in Sandy Hook
Hundreds of people slowly wandered by the stuffed animals, signs, Christmas trees, candles and homemade art in the heart of Sandy Hook all morning and afternoon. A handful were locals. More were from New York, other towns in Connecticut, and points beyond. They took pictures with cellphones, iPads and SLR cameras. Some wept. Some spoke to each other in Spanish — pointing out that all the teachers were represented with ornaments on one tree. Others reflected on what they'd seen in Hebrew.
Joyce Bondos of
But she said the timing was meaningful.
"This is a gift to all of them," she said, looking down at a stuffed bear with a patch of snow covering his button eyes. "Love. That's what Christmas is. Giving back."
Police officers from throughout the state gave back to the Newtown Police Department on Christmas, so the local officers could have the day off. (Local dispatchers were still at work.) Five departments were represented on the day shift alone.
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, just like I have loved you. ... By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another. John 13:34–35
About 15 people from Baltimore, who speak out against gun violence in their city under the motto "A Mother's Cry," made the pilgrimage to Newtown.
One of them, Denise Rucker, read aloud from the Book of Psalms as she stood in front of a shrine to the victims.
"Things we have made monumental in this country seem so small in times like this," she said, when all that really matters is "life and love. And you can put an amen on the end of that."
Love will see us through. – poster in a shop window in Sandy Hook
Javed Rahman and Leslie Wang don't observe Christmas, but Rahman said they decided to drive up from New Jersey to see the memorials Tuesday because it is a special day.
"I woke up and was thinking about those parents, how they feel," Rahman said. Their daughter, who is not quite 6, was with them, although she doesn't know the scope of what happened.
They're raising her in
Rahman, who lived in
Wang agreed, noting that in Hong Kong, not even the police are armed.
Rahman, who spent more than half his life in America, and Wang, who worked near the World Trade Center on
"It reflects how compassionate people are toward each other," Wang said. "That's the beauty of this country."