"Domestic partnership is a facsimile of marriage," he said. "There is no reason to have that artificial structure except to humiliate gay and lesbian couples."
Smith, the chief technology officer at a web advertising company, and Reifsnyder, a public relations specialist at Disney, met in Washington, D.C. They immediately clicked, but took the relationship slowly.
"We're not martini go-go boy type of gays," Smith said. "We're really boring people. It took us a while to realize we were on the same wavelength. And once we did, we were inseparable."
Smith and Reifsnyder moved to Los Angeles and became domestic partners in 1999. They signed the papers on the lid of a photocopier in Glendale.
Five years later, when they heard that San Francisco was permitting same-sex weddings, they jumped at the chance. They flew up two days later.
They said they would have loved to have waited for a big ceremony with family and friends, but they didn't know how long the window would be open.
Not long, it turns out. A few months later they were informed that their wedding was illegal, and their marriage had been annulled. They said they were demoralized, but not surprised.
"It gets really emotionally devastating, unless you have someone else beside you going through all this stuff," Smith said.
Hope for the future
Smith and Reifsnyder always knew they wanted a family. They found an egg donor and a surrogate mother. They moved from West Hollywood to a tree-lined street in Toluca Lake.
"In West Hollywood, we saw one kid in a three-block radius," said Reifsnyder. "In Toluca Lake, kids were riding their bikes through the neighborhood. People were walking their dogs."
Now they take hikes with the twins in baby-backpacks every weekend, hit the trains of Travel Town in Griffith Park, and go to their Episcopal church in Beverly Hills every Sunday.
They hope Thursday's ruling will make marriage possible once and for all. This time, they want the full ceremony.
Smith has Disneyland's wedding service waiting on speed dial.
"A ceremony is better than getting domestic-partnered over a photocopier in Glendale," he said.