Porn isn't normal

Porn isn't a feast for the eyes that gives a moments rush of excitement. It effects and damages hearts and souls. It strangles life out of the relationship. It should be special, it's a relationship! But it hurts to the very core those you supposedly love the most.

Agree with Wife @ 9:18 AM PDT, Jul 11, 2008

I think it is ironic that those who support the business of pornography say that it is a matter of freedom of expression. I have no freedom.

AV @ 9:07 AM PDT, Jul 11, 2008

As a wife who comes from marriage where the husband did entertain pornography, I just wanted to say that the phrase Making Love is supposed to be just that, making love, expressing that deepest most desirable connection with someone you hold so dear to you, there's no other way to express it. Pornography DOES hurt a marriage, and those who disagree are either fooling themselves or are to proud to admit it. You forgive and forget mistakes, but it will never be the same again. Your brain is a computer, and there is no delete button.

Wife @ 9:00 AM PDT, Jul 11, 2008

Thank you, Amy, for being a voice of truth! I know three couples whose marriages have been devastated by pornography use. One whose husband couldn't perform on their wedding night - he had trained his body to respond only to online porn. No wonder Viagra is such a hit these days.

Rachel @ 8:45 AM PDT, Jul 11, 2008

I applaud Amy, she is far beyond her years by just this mere contribution to the LA Times. To those who do not agree with her, I truly feel sorry for you. Pornography is a personal choice, an exercise of your free will. But how sad it is that you are now completely captive by something you have to do by yourself. Step outside your ego and lonliness, and get into a healthy relationship with a human being.

Applaud @ 8:44 AM PDT, Jul 11, 2008

Out of the mouths of Babes "She may be right.." No, she's not and neither are you. The expression of enduring love comes when you choose to forgive a wrong despite the way you feel, when you choose to accept a flaw when it does not cause real harm, and when you choose to change a part of yourself to become a better friend to your life partner. The sex is about having babies, having fun, and yes, intimacy. But not, "Enduring Love".

JD @ 4:09 AM PDT, Jul 11, 2008

Patrick, I would not say she is in a feminist bubble as in a conservative religious one. Sex is for procreation. Religion and society have put it into the "sacred" realm - not biology and survival of the species. Porn is like any other industry, there are the good stories and the bad. Some are voluntarily in the business for money, some had no other option - just like any other job. The difference is that porn offends the sensibilities of some people. Our society is becoming numb to everything, not just sex.

S3 in LA @ 8:15 PM PDT, Jul 10, 2008

Anyone who defends porn and wouldn't want his or her OWN daughter in it is a hypocrite. Amy probably wants to respect males in our culture, but has difficulty doing so due to their adolescent tendency to porn. She's not the one who needs to grow up here. Alot of women couldn't care less if their husbands look at porn, but that's not a sign of self-confidence, it just indicates low standards in men on the womens' part. And romance novels are fiction, not photos of real people that have had their sexual boundaries abused out of them. Besides, men and women are wired differently; guys really feel betrayal to learn that their wives are reading

gigi @ 6:38 PM PDT, Jul 10, 2008

Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. Mine is simple, if it wasn't evil, you wouldn't be so offended by someone suggesting that it is. t says that Amy is hastling men and what men like, and that she has to prove that porn is evil; t is an idiot. I've seen porn. I know how enticing it can be, but I also have a healthy understanding of right and wrong. Plenty of women look at porn as well, but that doesn't make it any more right. You can't possibly argue that porn is something good; or to put in another perspective, something of God. By the way, t, I bet you can't go 1 month without porn.

Che @ 6:25 PM PDT, Jul 10, 2008

You write as though you have knowledge of objective moral truths, which is incredibly naive. What you're actually doing is expressing the views of one who is sexually repressed, or sexually naive, nothing more. Grown adults do not require your "moral truths."

a.w. @ 5:41 PM PDT, Jul 10, 2008

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