In Vince Vaughn's latest flick 'The Dilemma' he plays a man who sees his BFF and business partner's wife cheating on him with another man.
And there lies 'The Dilemma'; what does he do?
Basically in a case like this you have three options:
1. Look the Other Way or MYOB
Just pretend you never saw anything. On the bright side you're not getting in someone else's relationship drama and your friendship stays as is. On the dark side you have this weighing on your conscience knowing that your friend is with a cheater. Also, if your friend finds out the truth and that you knew, you may end up losing your friendship anyways.
2. Tell Your Friend
Why this may be better for you to get it off your chest, there is one bad thing that could happen. Your friend may not believe you. For some it's easier just to look the other way if they think their spouse is cheating. Ignorance is bliss.
3. Confront the Cheater
The last option is to confront the person in the wrong, the cheater. That way they will feel the pressure that you may share their dark secret and will hopefully come clean themselves.
So what would you do?
Here's what some of our viewers had to say:
Hannah: I would tell them they have the right to know!!! I would want to be told!
Spoiledbrat: First of all, you should first think whether your friend will believe you. Because he might not believe you and think you're just making something up. I did have a similar situation like this before, about two years ago I saw my cousin's wife in the mall with another man. I followed them a bit to make sure and when I saw them hugging and kissing, I took out my celphone and took a video of them. Then I showed the video to my cousin. If I only talked about it, he might be torn between believing me or staying true to his wife, but since I had a videotape, there was no denying the truth.
Sk66rc: Depends on what your definition of a word "friend" is... If my close friend's girl friend/wife was cheating on him, I would definitely tell him... I'm not sure what you mean by "cause unnecessary trouble and it would only worsen their relationship"... From the sounds of it, if his wife was cheating on him, the relationship is already at a worst possible stage & longer they go on like this, worse they are going to get hurt... It would be better to be informed as soon as possible & end the relationship...
Pickwick: Sometimes ignorance is bliss.I will not tell this to my friend.Let the better half tell the truth himself/herself.But I would definately try to talk to the partner who is doing the mistake of cheating and try to drill some sense in him/her.
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