One part of the fight was settled earlier in the week when the state backed off its push to increase the anti-psychotic medicines the boy is taking. The folks who take care of him say they suspect the powerful psychotropic drugs the boy is taking are at the root of his fits of anger, and they want to give life a try without them. Now, they'll get their chance.
That hasn't happened. But he has landed in an excellent foster home that could turn out to be where he stays permanently.
The abuse in the boy's life started before he reached his second birthday, and by the time he turned 5, state investigators finally had taken him and his sister away from his mother and put them in foster homes. He left behind repeated sexual abuse and beatings. But he took with him memories that haunt him. For example, he remembers watching his 9-year-old sister being forced to have sex with the men who came to visit Mommy.
The healing should have started when the state got hold of the boy, but it didn't. Instead, the state Department of Children & Families shuffled the youngster, who turned 13 last month, through more than 20 foster homes, sometimes staying only a day or two at each.
Over eight years, he was "repeatedly revictimized and retraumatized," according to his mental-health evaluations. A recent one says that the department failed to meet his physical or emotional needs.
That's a polite way of saying no one cared. The boy and his fits of rage are hard to deal with, and most of the foster parents just gave in to get along and keep the drama to a minimum. None ever made a serious attempt to fix him.
Positive interaction with animals
After years of neglect, the boy has a diagnosis: He is suffering from severe post-traumatic stress disorder of the type experienced by soldiers in war.
He exhibits a second serious mental condition called reactive attachment disorder, which most often is found in children who never have loved or been loved by another human being. A person with that syndrome has a hard time caring about others, understanding the importance of personal boundaries and empathizing with others.
Is it really possible that a child born in America in this day and age could be loved by no one? It is. His eyes tell the story. Around the little donkey with big ears, the teen's light blue eyes flicker with connection and emotion. When things aren't going his way, a blink brings down a shadow of vacancy. It's as if he has deliberately closed that window to his inner self.
He is hard to read, this child. Since his release from The Vines Hospital in Ocala — where he was molested by his roommate, it came out during a therapy session — the boy has been in a foster home in Hernando County, where he has made big strides in stabilizing his life.
His 48-year-old single foster mom runs an equine center, where she cares for horses rescued from the racing industry along with a variety of other critters, including a deaf and half-blind border collie. The teen dropped easily into her life, and his improvement made perfect sense to her. Unlike other foster mothers, she expected it.
Her theory is that when children understand that humans are responsible for animals, and that things must be done every day, a sense of stability pervades. She that believes kids and animals interact in a natural way that is healthy for both — if given the opportunity. And she gives plenty of opportunity.
On a recent afternoon, chaos reigned in the cab of her pickup truck with her three foster boys on the way home from school. One had just arrived at the farm and was silent, taking it all in. The other two were feeling sick, the youngest unnerved by court proceedings during which his parents' rights to him were being cut off forever. Everybody was hot, irritated and bickering.
They pulled into the gate at home, and she announced that Festus had been sick all day — a touch of donkey diarrhea. Immediately, the focus changed. The youngest boy, 6, jumped out and ran for the donkey, with the Leesburg boy right behind. Cures were applied. Festus was petted and consoled. Calm returned.
Sudden, violent outbursts
Still, progress is not without its roadblocks, and the teen is facing a big one: anger. He can't seem to let it go. He hasn't learned to walk away from a fight, to stop picking on kids on the bus, to talk rather than break things to make his point.