They're women. They're single. And they're looking to meet men!
"I guess I' m just looking for someone who's pretty down to earth," Bernadette, a woman at the 'Meet Market' said, "Somebody who can commit, yeah, that would be nice.
When a local radio station held their annual "Meet" market, that's m-e-e-t--just in time for Valentine's Day.... 725 single women showed up at a Hartford nightclub hoping to meet one of the 95 men featured on the "men-u".
Men like Matt, a financial underwriter, who's dating three women but wanted to meet more, "There's like seven women for every guy here. Can't beat that..." he said. "It's scary."
Scary for Matt an epidemic for single women.
According to the latest U.S. Census, the number of single women is at an all time high ...tripled since 1970. And for the first time, people living alone now outnumber married couples with children.
Courtney, from KISS 95.7's morning show is one of those women. She's attractive, successful and single.
"It's difficult to meet a nice guy, who is caring, sweet and has a job," she said.
Courtney said while she doesn't mind being single, she hoped by now she'd be out of the 'dating game.'
"I was never the type where I had to be married or have children by a certain age, but I thought at this point I would be with a best friend. A guy that was my best friend and soul mate," she said.
There's good reason "why" women are having such a hard time meeting Mr. Right. Single women listen up, it's not in your mind--there truly is a shortage of men!
Nationwide there are only 86 unmarried men for every 100 unmarried women. In Connecticut, Tolland County is the place to be. There, the ratio of unmarried men to women is 94 to 100-because of UConn.
In Hartford and Fairfield County, however, the ratio is much lower, 79 men for every 100 women. And retailers are catching on.
"The right hand ring is basically a new style of ring for women who are independent," said Kristin Ellette from Michaels Jewelers.
Michaels is just one of the jewelers marketing diamonds for single women. It's called the right hand ring.
Elizabeth Page bought one before it was the hip thing to do, "Instead of waiting for someone to buy it for me, I went out and bought it for myself."
Thirty years ago, a woman buying a diamond ring for herself would have been inconceivable. But now, because of shows like Sex In The City and Friends, single women in their 30's are no longer portrayed as "old maids."
"Society is actually applauding singlehood. No longer do we feel ashamed about but we are actually applauding it," Professor Jon Bloch from Southern Connecticut State University said.
Bloch, a sociology professor at SCSU, says as daughters of bra burning women, "30-something single women" today can be confused about who or what they should be.
"There is a certain expectation that if the woman is single, that she is perfectly content. That she is single and so on, but she is not supposed to lonely and unhappy," Bloch said.
Bloch says the more choices we have, the more uncertain our lives become.
And remember Bernadette from the "meet" market?
"The men don't come up to you anymore. They'll look at you from across the way, they'll smile," Bernadette said.
Well, she didn't meet anyone that night and she continues to face choices, "I'm not afraid of being alone. I don't have to be alone. I could be with someone, I just chose to be with someone I'm compatible with," Bernadette said.
She'd rather wait, than make a mistake. If that means being single, she says, so be it.
Where Are All The Single Men?
U.S. Census says single women at all-time high
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