Gwyneth Paltrow explains how she and ‘brother’ Chris Martin have consciously uncoupled

Gwyneth Paltrow says that her former husband, Chris Martin, is more like a "brother" than ex.

Gwyneth Paltrow says that her former husband, Chris Martin, is more like a “brother” than ex.

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If you’re still wondering what conscious uncoupling looks like, it’s whatever Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin are doing.

The Oscar winner, who split with the Coldplay frontman in March 2014, explained their appropriation of the term made famous by her split announcement in her Goop newsletter.

The point of conscious uncoupling is how to stay a family when going through a divorce, the “Iron Man 3” star said in the March issue of Glamour. And for the Paltrow-Martin kids — Apple, 11, and Moses, 9, — it’s having their parents feel more like siblings than exes. More on that in a few...


“The ideal is to stay married. But if you can’t stay married, wouldn’t the ideal be that you could still be a family and you could put aside your own stuff long enough to explore — what is this new family and who am I in it?” Paltrow explained. “And Chris is a great ex-husband ‘cause he’s a very, very willing partner in how to do that. We’re constantly putting aside our own stuff and trying to reimagine something that we don’t personally have an example for.”

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The 43-year-old, who’s taking time off from acting to focus on her business ventures, said that the two are dedicated to their kids and what’s best for them: “We put a lot of thought into how to do it so that the damage would be minimized.”

That being said, she added that they still spend a lot of time together.

“He’s been away for two weeks [promoting his album]. Last night he got in at midnight and slept here so he could surprise the kids in the morning, we could all have breakfast, and he could take them to school,” she said. “So … we’re not living together, but he’s more than welcome to be with us whenever he wants. And vice versa: I sleep in his house in Malibu a lot with the kids. We’ll have a weekend all together; holidays, we’re together. We’re still very much a family, even though we don’t have a romantic relationship. He’s like my brother.”

Well, that brings new meaning to the term “friendly exes.”

Anyway, the “Mortdecai” star is currently dating “Glee” and “American Horror” story co-producer Brad Falchuk, noting that she doesn’t always need to be in a relationship.


“I’ve always been very independent. Even in relationships, I’m focused on the quality of my life and not enmeshing myself so much with somebody else’s experience. But I think there’s incredible value in being married,” she said, noting that she would be open to walking down the aisle again.

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“I don’t know. I guess so. I mean, I believe in marriage. But I’m not even divorced yet! So give me a minute,” she laughed.

Last April, the pair, who’d been married for nine years and five months before separating, filed their divorce settlement a year after announcing their conversation-starting split.

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