It’s time to honor family caregivers
As a former family caregiver who assists family caregivers as a
social worker at an adult day health-care center, I would like to
once again publicize that November is National Family Caregivers
According to the National Family Caregiver Assn., there is a
disparity between a family caregiver’s quality of life and that of
mainstream Americans. Taking this one step further, while being a
family caregiver to a physically challenged loved one is difficult,
it is more difficult for those who care for cognitively impaired
Speaking from five years of experience taking care of my father
and seeing the toll caregiving takes on the family members of
clients, I can emphatically state just how difficult it was. Unless
you’ve been a caregiver for a loved one with a dementia, you can only
imagine the amount of stress and financial strain a family caregiver
experiences. In fact, the amount of stress is so intense, family
caregivers can die before their loved ones.
Some of the symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of
dementia can include but are not limited to: memory loss (not knowing
family members, a person, place, or time), inappropriate behavior
(taking one’s clothes off in public), wandering, incontinence issues,
agitation and other behavioral problems.
The general public cannot understand just how heartbreaking being
a parent to one’s parent is for many caregivers. Those who have never
been in the position as a caregiver cannot understand just how
stressful and heartbreaking it is when the parent who once took care
of his or her children for years asks the daughter, “Where is my
daughter? Have you seen my daughter?”
Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia eventually leads to the
death of the care recipient. After care giving ends, it takes a long
time -- sometimes years -- to relieve the stress and other problems
caused by the years of being a family caregiver. However, if there
are financial constraints, it adds more stress, which makes the
family caregivers’ higher quality of life much more difficult.
In honor of family caregivers and the tremendous work they do, say
a prayer, light a candle, and/or offer to help them with their loved
ones. They will appreciate it.
What good neighbor?
As I lifelong horse owner and resident of the Burbank Rancho, I
would like to add my input and support for the views expressed by
Mr. Dunlevie and Mr. Kelley concerning our “good” neighbor at the Los
Angeles Equestrian Center.
When the center was first built, causing us to lose an open place
to work our horses and the only unique cricket field in the area, we
were misled by the now deceased Al Garcia. We were promised a
world-class show facility, access to arenas, and a bridge for the
Glendale Rancho equestrians to cross the river into Griffith Park on
the Easter Field end. We believed these promises and bought into
them. Now, during the entire time the center has been there, we have
had no access to any part of the center, there is no second bridge
across the river, and the center frequently is used for programs that
have nothing to do with horses.
What we now have is an ugly, fenced, private facility, with
ever-increasing gigantic manure berms along one side. Those of us who
are fortunate enough to have our horses on our own property are
required to pay extra to have the manure hauled away, and the local
public stables also used to pay for that service. Moreover, part of
the center has a parking area reminiscent of a used car lot car lot
full of campers and trailers that don’t even belong to the people
that board their horses at the center.
The center was supposed to be horse-oriented, yet there are
offices being constructed for a construction company that runs the
center, and there are many non-equestrian events that were properly
complained about because they bothered people up to at least three
blocks away. Due to the non horse-oriented events which occur on the
same days as horse-oriented events, participants and spectators have
difficulty parking, even if one has paid for exhibitor parking space.
The recent Fiesta of the Spanish Horse, which abided by all the
rules, is an example of the way things should be done. There were no
complaints. It seems as if the more time that goes by, the more the
true purpose of the Equestrian Center becomes blurred and the more
suffering there is by horse owners, including the ones who board
their horses at the center. Now, for example, they have to pay extra
to use the various arenas at the center.
It appears that commercialism and the almighty dollar have
overwhelmed the actual lawful use of the land and are responsible for
a deterioration of what was the protected enjoyment of the land. If
we could only have our voices heard, Mr. Dunlevie and Mr. Kelley and
others similarly situated would, by rights, be able to enjoy life