Dear Liz: My husband and I have decided that next year we want to have a baby. So we have at minimum a year and nine months to make sure we're financially prepared. I did some cursory Googling and I'm already a bit overwhelmed. I'm not sure where to start.
I know I should figure out how much the medical costs will be, but how do I figure out how much everything else costs? Do you have a checklist of things we should be aware of and consider? One thing I could use some guidance on is whether I should stay home or put our baby in daycare so I don't miss out on work benefits like healthcare and 401(k) matching. I like my job and bosses, and if I leave I will have to find a new job that may not be as good when I decide to reenter the workforce. But if we decide to have a second child, I'm worried that childcare costs will be too much for two young children. Know of any good books on this subject?
Answer: By leaving work you wouldn't be missing out only on benefits. Research by economist Stephen J. Rose and Heidi I. Hartmann, president of the Institute for Women's Policy Research, found that women's average annual earnings decline 20% if they stay out of the workforce for one year and 30% if the absence stretches to two or three years. Many find it tough to rejoin the workforce after extended absences.
Quitting work is the right choice for some parents, but you shouldn't do so simply because you fear childcare costs. For a few years, those costs might eat up most or all of your paycheck, but such expenses decline over time. If you continue to work, your earning power and retirement contributions will continue to grow.
Meanwhile, some parents find they can reduce childcare costs by staggering their work schedules, tapping family members or sharing a nanny. Research the childcare options in your area so you have an idea of what's available and the costs.
You can continue your research into budgeting for a child with the excellent, constantly updated book "Baby Bargains" by Denise and Alan Fields. This field guide offers product reviews and realistic assessments of what you actually need to buy for your child and what you don't.
Another good resource is financial writer Kimberly Palmer's "Baby Planner," available on Etsy.
With all your planning, keep in mind that parenting always presents surprises. You may decide to stop after one child or keep going until you have a houseful. The important thing is to remain flexible and don't assume you know how your future self will choose to live.
One of the best pieces of advice in Facebook Chief Operating Officer Sheryl Sandberg's bestselling book, "Lean In," is that women not cut themselves off from career opportunities because of how hard they think combining work and child-rearing will be. "What I am arguing is that the time to scale back is when a break is needed or when a child arrives — not before, and certainly not years in advance," she writes.
Finding a better credit card
Dear Liz: One of my credit cards offers mediocre rewards — mainly an online store where I can use points to buy products I don't really need. I would like a card from the same company that offers better rewards, but this is my oldest credit card and I don't want to hurt my credit score by closing it. Should I just open a new card and use this one sparingly? Can I call the company to seek better rewards without closing the account? Thanks for any help you can offer.
Answer: If you have plenty of other open accounts, don't be afraid of closing one occasionally. Most credit issuers continue to report the details of closed accounts to the credit bureaus for years, so your good history with this card will continue to contribute positively to your scores even if you close the account.