We say "kind of crashed" because he also kind of had an invitation, albeit one he initially declined.
The party was upstairs at a Charleston steakhouse, and Murray was hanging out downstairs, where he was spotted by a guest who was making a bathroom run, according to a first-person account posted Tuesday on Deadspin. Through a waiter, the guys (most of them friends who met at Boston College) tried to send the
(Murray, a co-owner of the Charleston RiverDogs minor league baseball team, has a place in town.)
But there must have been a change of heart, because a few minutes later, Bill-Bleeping-Murray walked into the party, ready to offer some words of wisdom.
"You know funerals are not for the dead, they're for the living?" the actor told the group in a video posted by Deadspin. "Bachelor parties are not for the groom." They are for the guys who are unmarried, he said to applause and howls of approval.
Murray then encouraged everyone except the groom not to think in their "ordinary mind" and simply plan a date and do the marital deed with a person that might be "the one."
Rather, he recommended, "take that person and travel around the world. Buy a plane ticket for the two of you to travel all around the world and go to places that are hard to go to and hard to get out of.
"And if when you come back, to JFK, when you land in JFK and you're still in love with that person, get married at the airport."
Sage advice from a man who's been married and divorce twice. And who made that one movie about traveling around the world.
"He was an awesome guy," the groom, E.J. Rumpke, told E! News. "As soon as he came into the room we were all zoned in on listening to every word he said. He asked the group a few questions, then jumped right in to his advice about traveling the world."
However, the groom won't necessarily be taking the actor's advice word-for-word. Rather, he and wife-to be Kelly Williams, who've been together for four years, will proceed with their June 14 nuptials as planned.