She cited "irreconcilable differences" as the reason for the split.
The pair were high school sweethearts and wed in 1994. They have three children together.
Schoolteacher Kapfer has reportedly filed for joint legal and physical custody of their two minor children, Mason, 17, and Piper, 8. Their eldest son, Spencer, is 19 and in college.
She's also reportedly asking for spousal support.
Just this January, the
"She has been changing into this other woman that I have to introduce myself to every few years and thank God I've fallen in love with each one. I'm lucky that way," the "Jerry Maguire" alum said, adding, "Oh, I want to kill her sometimes and she puts up with me!"
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