As a team, they functioned in unison. Their talents complemented each other. They were interdependent. And, of course, they were deeply in love.
That doe-eyed stare of adoration at her husband while standing beside him in public was for real.
"She wanted to be next to him all the time," recalls political strategist Ken Khachigian, who wrote many of Reagan's major presidential speeches. "And he couldn't stand to be away from her."
Stu Spencer, who managed most of Reagan's gubernatorial and presidential campaigns, says: "She always called him 'Ronnie.' He always called her 'Mommy.'"
They thoroughly enjoyed each other.
I covered Reagan up close for 20 years, including as The Times'
In 1984, we were invited to a state dinner for the Mexican president. My wife, Nereida, was wide-eyed and thrilled — but also sleepy as midnight neared. She had to teach school the next morning.
It was very bad form, however, to leave a White House dinner before the first couple retired upstairs. But Ronnie and Mommy — then ages 73 and 62 — kept gliding and trotting all over the dance floor for hours after dessert, smiling and hugging. My wife marveled at that for years.
"They were a great team," Spencer says. "He had the belief system. She told him how to implement it. She was the personnel director."
"There was only one criteria for her. Was this person going to work for Ronnie's agenda or for a personal agenda."
The first lady had only one agenda — her husband's legacy.
She became known as "the bad cop."
But Khachigian considers that a bad rap. "She wanted him to be the best president ever," he says. "I don't fault her for that. She had one constituent and that was him. She had good political sense."
Khachigian learned that when the first lady spoke, she usually was relaying the president's view, not just hers.
"He was often reluctant to scold anybody, to tell his staff he wanted something done differently," Khachigian says. "He had that kindhearted way about him. He was tough in his beliefs and tough on [Soviet leader Mikhail] Gorbachev. But he couldn't be tough on his staff.
"She could. She knew what he wanted, either through pillow talk or over dinner. And she'd pass it along."
One example: After a disastrous first debate with Democrat Walter Mondale during the 1984 reelection campaign — when Reagan seemed old, overwhelmed and slow — Khachigian was summoned to the presidential cabin on Air Force One as it returned to Washington from Louisville, Ky.
The first couple was sitting together. "'Shouldn't his [next] speech be tougher?'" Khachigian remembers her asking. "'And he wants the next debate to be tougher.' She was ticked off because he was ticked off."
The rest is history. "We started kicking the crap out of Mondale," Khachigian says. "That was the most fun he had in his entire campaign."
The first lady also complained that the staff had over-prepared her husband for the debate. No more. He went into the next debate relaxed and essentially finished off his challenger for good.
Reagan famously couldn't bring himself to fire anyone. Nancy considered it her duty to arrange a resignation.
One example was Interior Secretary James G. Watt, a public lands despoiler whom environmentalists hated. His fatal move, however, was banning the Beach Boys from the capital's 1983 Fourth of July celebration, claiming they attracted the "wrong element."
Nancy loved the Beach Boys' music. She and the president retaliated by inviting the Beach Boys to perform at the White House. Watt got the message and quit.
The most famous example of the first lady bouncing an aide was the forced resignation of White House Chief of Staff Donald Regan in early 1987. Regan had presided over the legacy-damaging Iran-Contra affair.
"He started hanging up on Nancy," Spencer says. "'Get off my back' and hanging up on her. You didn't do that to Ronald Reagan's wife. I got called back there by Nancy. 'We've got to talk. We've got a problem.'"
Spencer went to then-Vice President George H.W. Bush. The veep had a heart-to-heart with Regan. And he resigned.
Reagan occasionally might have seemed soft, but he was totally his own man.
"Ronald Reagan did everything Nancy told him to do — if he agreed," the late Martin Anderson, a longtime advisor, once told me. "Many times he'd say no. I never saw any badgering by her. I saw a lot of holding hands."
Spencer remembers that the first lady got upset when Reagan called the Soviet Union the "evil empire." She thought that was too nasty and got Spencer in a room with the president. She asked the strategist what he thought.
"I said, 'He's right. It is an evil empire. But …'" Spencer says. "Before I could explain the 'but,' he cut me off. He said 'That's enough. What's for dessert, Mommy?'"
What Ronald and Nancy Reagan had together worked for them, the presidency and the country.
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