MAKING IT WORK : Some Ways for Seniors to Conquer Loneliness

Loneliness in old age is a pain no matter where you live, but it’s particularly difficult for Orange County seniors because “most people come from someplace else and neighborhoods keep changing,” says Shirley Cohen, executive director of the Feedback Foundation. And even stable neighborhoods are often empty because it takes two incomes to support a household in this high-priced housing market.

But in the absence of neighborly connections, there are ways seniors can overcome, or at least ease, their loneliness. Helen Greenblatt, a “60ish” Laguna Hills psychotherapist, suggests:

* Find a way of earning recognition--do some volunteer work, start a new business, go back to work.

* Try activities you always wanted to do when you were younger but never had time for. Don’t be disappointed in yourself if you don’t stick to one thing very long. This is a time to try on different roles--and don’t worry about what other people will think.

* Remember that others are seeking relief from loneliness, too. You’ll find them by getting involved in activities that would attract other lonely people.

* Try to find a buddy. One good friend is all you need.

* Don’t let regrets about what you haven’t accomplished keep you from trying new things. You can do almost anything you want, with some limits. It’s never too late to start.