MAKING IT WORK : A Few Hints on How to Make the Juggling Act a Little Easier

Working mothers would find considerable relief from stress if they let go of irrational guilt and unreasonable self-expectations, says Carolyn Baustian, a Huntington Beach marriage and family therapist.

That’s easier said than done, but Baustian offers the following suggestions to help working mothers juggle their multiple roles with more peace of mind:

* Set aside some quiet time to spend with each of your children every day. Even just 10 or 15 minutes goes a long way if they have your undivided attention.

* Recognize that you can’t meet all the needs of those who depend on you at home and at work. Weigh your priorities, make compromises and give yourself credit for doing the best you can.

* Involve your children in household chores. Doing everything for them might ease your guilt, but it also means more work for you and keeps them from developing the skills they need to become independent.

* Take time for yourself. If you do things that help you feel rejuvenated, you’ll have more to give others.

* Cultivate friendships with women who understand your conflicts as a working mother and can give you emotional support.