Friendly Commandments

If you have a problem with your neighbor:

* Keep a written log. This will help you determine if a problem requires discussion with a neighbor. If so, you've got solid information.

* Assume your neighbor is innocent. Approach your neighbor with pleasant neutrality, and chances are you'll be met with the same. Assume he or she doesn't know there is a problem.

* Communicate, don't retaliate. Retaliation makes you the bad guy, particularly if your neighbor doesn't know there is a problem.

* Remember tolerance. We all blast our music from time to time.

* Creative solutions exist. Don't think either/or; do think creative compromise

* Put your money where your mouth is. If there is only a financial fix to a problem that gets under your skin, weigh your willingness to put cash on the line.

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