Some Rules to Live By and Resources to Remember

* Know your roommates.

Living with a roommate is probably even harder than living.

Here is some parting advice, and resources you can use whenever you find yourself in a difficult rental situation.

with your neighbors. You can shut your neighbors out, but your roommate is in your life and in your face.

Many roommate relationships are doomed from the start simply because the renters are naive enough to think the relationship will be problem-free.

Smart renters plan for the worst and discuss all that can go wrong before moving in together. This includes:

Discussing financial responsibilities--making each other equally responsible for the apartment and not putting all the utility bills on one person’s shoulders.

Assessing the risk--making sure the roommate is reliable and has a good rental history.

Creating house rules that work for everyone and discussing what to do when someone violates those rules--this includes smoking, guests, use of common areas, cleaning tasks and how food and supplies will be shared.

Preparing for the day you end your roommate relationship--especially if one person wants to keep the apartment.

After you’ve done the hard work of communicating, write it down.

* Know when to rent and when to buy.

Folks in the housing industry often debate whether renting or owning is better from a financial perspective. I’ve often advocated that folks need to consider renting as a viable option for saving and investing money in something other than real estate.

Even so, I have to say any investment is risky. A house may depreciate rapidly due to a change in the surrounding area. And as we’ve seen lately, you can only be on the winning side of the stock market for so long before the bear appears to pounce on your dreams.

If you’re the kind of person who’s on the move a lot, going from city to city, you’re not going to be happy owning your own home. Buying a home and reselling it in a short period of time is a lot of work, whereas moving from rental to rental is much easier.

On the other hand, if you’re the type of person who loves to stay in the same place for a long time, renting can be infuriating. First of all, you’re often subject to the whims of your landlords. One landlord may decide to not renew your lease. Another may raise the rent so you’re forced to move.

Other renters like to rent because they don’t want to take the time to care for their homes. They don’t have to worry about calling the plumber or caring for the grounds. They’d be miserable doing all the work it takes to own a home. On the flip side, other renters love to putter around and really invest something of themselves into their home. Many renters worry they can’t save the down payment or that the hidden expenses of home ownership will be too much.

It’s true that making the leap into home ownership is tough, especially the first couple of years. But after that, owners usually have a much easier time as their costs stabilize over time while rents continue to rise every year. It certainly takes a keen vision of the future to see that a couple of years of hardship is worth the effort over the long term.

* Know your rights.

When you’re having a disagreement with your landlord, don’t waste any time in getting help. You can’t and shouldn’t do it alone. You’ll only get yourself into trouble.

Protect yourself by researching the laws or talking to a lawyer or tenants’ rights group if you have one nearby. Also, keep copies of any communication you have with your landlord, and by all means take pictures of your apartment before you move in and when you move out.

Here are some important resources to help you protect yourself:

Nolo books and Nolo.com [(800) 992-6656 or https://www.nolo.com] have a number of tenant books that can help you out when you need to know your rights.

“Renters’ Rights” by Janet Portman and Marcia Stewart--good when you’re just starting out and want to understand the basic rules of renting.

“Every Tenant’s Legal Guide” by Janet Portman and Marcia Stewart--an essential reference when you’re in a sticky mess with your landlord.

“Everybody’s Guide to Small Claims Court” by Ralph Warner--a must when you need to take your landlord to court.

The Tenants Legal Center in San Diego (https://www.tenantslegalcenter.com) is an excellent resource for tenants, especially Southern Californians.

Take my advice: keep this list of resources handy and next time you’re in trouble, do something about it.

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