Marital statuses

It was with great interest that I read the article “Marriage in the Third Degree” (Feb. 9). In describing the casual and cavalier attitude taken by society today toward second marriages, and really not being too terribly concerned about several thereafter, I was struck by the inequity toward a community that is not allowed to get married at all. My husband and I happily shared in the joyful experience of the marriages this year of our two daughters. However, our son, who is gay, does not have the right to commit his love and his heart to the man he loves. While we are ever so slowly moving toward “domestic partnerships” that would allow gay couples to enjoy some if not all the benefits of a non-gay couple, the word “marriage” cannot be used with regard to this union. What gives us the right to keep that word so holy and special to us? Have we done such an exemplary job in making “marriage” special?

I look forward to the day when everyone who wants to make a loving and honorable commitment to another has the right to do so. And I will be there, happily helping to plan my son’s wedding!

Lynette Sperber

Sherman Oaks