It’s parents’ turn to be cared for

After reading the article by Mark Goulston about dealing with an aging parent [“Doctor Files,” Oct. 30], I thought about my nearly-88-year-old mother who still, for the most part, maintains her independence, but does rely on me quite a bit.

Parents spent most of their adult life caring about their spouse, their children, their families. I’m sure there were days when they really didn’t feel like it, and maybe wanted to spend a little time just for themselves. But they didn’t whine about it or dwell on it. When your parent ages and becomes frail and in need of attention, it isn’t about you. It is the time to return the kindness and care they always gave you, because that is the human thing to do.

FRANCES TERRELL LIPPMAN

Los Angeles