No wedding date for Dad

Dear Amy: After 36 years of marriage, my father has moved out to be with a woman he apparently has been seeing for a while. My mother is devastated, and many family members are very angry. I’m getting married in July, and my dad wishes to bring his new lady to the wedding.

My future mother-in-law is hosting our small wedding at her home and is upset about my father’s behavior. What should I do to ensure we have a wonderful day?

Wedding Blues

Dear Blues: The basic guideline for people including their dates as guests is if they are engaged to one another or living together.


Even if your father and his paramour fall under these guidelines, it is too soon for him to bring her to a small wedding where your mother will also be present.

As his daughter and the bride-to-be, you should ask him to consider your and your mother’s feelings.

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