Stay-at-Home Parent Isn’t the Only One Who Knows Best

Thank you for reporting on a troubling decision affecting all parents of those with developmental disabilities (“When Two Must Be of One Mind,” April 10).

With all due respect, however, I most adamantly disagree with Dr. Hans Steiner’s feelings that the stay-at-home parent is a better judge of the child’s behavior and the decision to use medication.

As the parent of an autistic son, now 9, I didn’t sleep at all for the two years before we began medical trials. Both his mother and I would stay up with him, alternating shifts. But since Mom had to be with him during the day, I insisted she go to sleep. My son and I stayed up watching the sun rise and watching videos. I couldn’t, and still can’t, sleep until I know he’s fast asleep.

I more than saw his behavior, and I was able to give his doctors an accurate, up-to-the-minute report as to what was going on. They, in turn, heard our cry for help.

What is omitted from your piece is that while many parents, like myself, are strong advocates for medication, too often doctors treating these children go home to no kids and have no real sense of how tough it can be. Yes, my son is now on various medications and thriving. Alas, his mother and I at our physician’s request are now too taking medication for the stress, anxiety and depression his autism has brought us.

--KEVIN LARKIN

Studio City

*

Kudos on your article “When Two Must Be of One Mind.” Not only was the social worker Marisha Madrigal’s effectiveness well described, but I appreciated her emphasis on early intervention. This sensitive approach to health care can improve the future of many children at risk.

--JOAN SCHAIN-WEST

Chairwoman

Public Relations Committee

California Institute for Clinical Social Work