WKND FEEDBACK
Holding purse strings in love
Money and dating: Why must the two be such a combustive combination? While I sympathize with Mark Miller’s woes regarding the high-maintenance woman (“A Deficient Wallet; He Felt the Wallop,” Jan. 15), I can’t read his little rant without wanting to shout out one of my own.
I find it uncomfortable that men and women alike expect the man to be the one to flip the bill on a date. When a man pays on the first date, if and only if he’s initiated the date, then it’s OK. But when one begins seeing that same man successively it feels unfair, awkward and just plain wrong if he continues to pay.
Women ought to get a clue and start toeing the line when it comes to financing dates. And Mark Miller ought to hang out with the ones who do.
Jennifer Griffith
Pasadena
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Don’t kid yourself, Mark Miller. The great majority of women look to the wallet of the man. While money and/or power are the most attractive things a man must possess for most women, sometimes men like you and me, who possess neither, lose out for other reasons.
In 1989, I had a girlfriend who was sweet, warm and caring and possessed a quality I’ve always looked for in a woman -- she had very low standards as far as looks were concerned. But she was wine and cheese and I was clearly beer and pretzels. I was never going to be the kind of guy who appreciated food served with wine sauce and she would never understand the fine nuances of the ketchup/relish, mayonnaise and shredded lettuce combination of a Bob’s Big Boy hamburger. While it broke my heart when she dumped me, I can look back and see it was the right thing to do.
Matt Cairns
Culver City
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Mark Miller gives himself away with the line “ ... with this beautiful woman who really seemed to ‘get it’ ...” Tell you what, Mark. You men start dating fat, homely women and attractive women will start dating poor men.
Melody Platt
Venice
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Harrison story sadly alarming
If allegations surrounding the doctor accused of coercing George Harrison into signing autographs and manipulated him for his own selfish reasons turn out to have merit (“Doctor Hounded Dying Ex-Beatle, Lawsuit Claims,” Jan. 8), then it is indeed a sad footnote in the final chapter of Harrison’s life.
The Hippocratic oath states that, above all, a doctor should do no harm. If this doctor did what he is accused of, he may have done irreparable psychological harm to Harrison in his dying days and that’s certainly cause for alarm. If he is guilty, let him pay the price in full.
Bruce L. Thiessen
Bakersfield