Grandpa can extend the hospitality too

Dear Amy: Our grandson recently got married. One Sunday afternoon, the newlyweds paid us an unexpected visit. After visiting for a short while, I thought my wife should have offered them coffee or tea.

I would like to know who should take the initiative to make an offering.

I feel that the wife (who is the homemaker) should have taken it upon herself (or should have asked me) to make a lunch or something to offer to our guests.

I know we made a bad impression on them. What is the correct way to handle this kind of situation?

Joseph

Dear Joseph: I agree that it would have been most hospitable to offer your guests a beverage.

However, it is your home too. You don’t need to wait for your wife to come up with hospitable gestures, even if she is the homemaker and you are accustomed to following her lead at home.

Mainly, you need to remember that they came to see you and enjoy your company. Don’t dwell too much on your lapse.

You two could easily fix this by calling the young couple, thanking them for popping by and inviting them for lunch next Sunday.

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