Part of the family -- even post-divorce

Dear Amy: My sister “Carol” was married for about 10 years to “Steve.”

About three years ago, he started cheating on Carol and eventually left her. She was devastated.

He recently married the woman and they have a baby.

My sister “Sarah” and her husband have maintained a close relationship with Steve and his new family.

Do you feel this relationship they maintain with Steve is appropriate?

Christine

Dear Christine: A sensitive family member will realize that during a difficult divorce, attention and concern should be lavished onto the aggrieved family member.

The in-law friendship should be placed on another burner until the divorce dust settles.

Your siblings can maintain friendships with whomever they choose. All the same, they shouldn’t push this friendship into your sister’s face.

It doesn’t take all that much common sense to realize that the less said about Steve in Carol’s presence, the better.

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