She’d love ‘Twilight’ romance

Dear Amy: I am a divorced woman in my mid-50s and am happy with my life. I have friends and great relationships with my kids, their spouses and the grandkids.

I have dated two men since divorcing, neither one for long. That has not bothered me until lately.

I recently read a popular book series. It was geared toward younger readers originally. I have been obsessed with these stories and have really grown attached to the primary male character.

I’m so sorry I don’t have the same type of love that this character has for the female character. I have been depressed about this.


I don’t know if I am having a “middle-age” breakdown or what. I don’t know if I should seek counseling.

I feel like I am missing a lot all of a sudden, and I keep thinking about this character and wanting a love like he has. What is wrong with me?


Dear Obsessed: It seems the “Twilight” series may have sent you over the edge. If you confess to an obsession, wonder if you are having a breakdown and worry about your behavior, then you should seek counseling.


You definitely have big questions about the course of your life. Big questions -- about mortality and the nature of love and our attachments -- are a gift, as long as they send you on an honest quest for answers. You must be the hero of your own story.


Dear Amy: “Wondering” didn’t know how to manage her out-of-control toddler.

In my experience, toddlers do this when they’re tired, hungry, thirsty or overwhelmed. Having a tantrum is their way of telling you, “It’s time to go home.” I went through this with my kids, but it passes in time.


Experienced Mom

Dear Mom: Your experience and mine are identical.

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