Filling in the blanks

Two blank grave markers sit on the sizzling back lot of Sun City Granite, waiting to bear the names of U.S. service members killed in Iraq or Afghanistan.

Joe Mehochko knows they'll probably be young. Fresh out of high school. Like the scores of others whose names he's carved into black-speckled granite since the wars began. Maybe a soldier killed in a firefight outside of Baghdad. A Marine blown apart by a roadside bomb near Kandahar.

"All I know," said Mehochko, covered in sweat and powdery dust inside the un-air-conditioned shop, "is that we'll get a call.... We always do."

Riverside National Cemetery has relied on Mehochko's four-person engraving company in Perris to produce headstones of all those killed in action and buried there since the war on terror began -- close to 100 in all.

"We had nothing for the longest time. Then the first one hit. Then, pretty soon, 10. Then 20. It keeps going on and on," Mehochko said. "On 9/11, look at how many people died. But how many people have died since, fighting this war? It's sad, really. Just sad."

All of the orders are rush jobs, to be completed with just a few hours' notice. Cemetery officials don't want the loved ones of those killed in the line of duty to ever see a barren grave site, so the headstones must be in place on the day of the funeral.

When Mehochko arrives at work before sunup, there may be an order waiting on a desk inside a cinder-block back room. Every other job in the shop is set aside.

Mehochko will never meet the family or attend the funeral. All he ever knows about the dead are scant details provided by Veterans Affairs: name, rank, military branch, where they served, the day they were born, the day they died. Sometimes a marker will include a cross, Star of David or other religious symbol, and a four- or five-word inscription from the family.

But no matter how distant, a bond exists.

"It's an honor, really," said Mehochko, 48. "It's a memorial for that person, and something the family can see and know that it's going to be there forever. The casket, that's for three days."

Sun City Granite is within a few hundred yards of the cemetery, on the other side of the 215 Freeway among dirt fields and a sea of abandoned trailers. A horse grazes on the front lawn of a house next door; a punching bag hangs from the front porch of another one door down.

Outside in the 100-degree heat are stacks of blank granite headstones, including midnight black imported from India and blue pearl shipped from Norway.

Above, C-17s often lumber toward the runway at March Joint Air Reserve Base, the launching point for many Camp Pendleton Marines headed to the battlefield. Mehochko was stationed there 20 years ago, fixing F-4 Phantoms as a sergeant in the Air Force.

He left the service to open Sun City Granite with his wife, Teresa Herbert. Although divorced, the two still run the company side by side.

Along with thousands of markers, they also have engraved the National Distinguished Flying Cross Memorial at nearby March, bricks lining a veterans memorial in Temecula and a wall-size Sept. 11 memorial in the town of Menifee.

"Hey, I think we should be over there. I would have been ready to go," Mehochko said of the wars launched after the World Trade Center's twin towers fell. "I mean, where does it end? We could turn the other cheek and they'd do something else. How many plots have they interrupted since that time?"

The shop works only on headstones for service members killed in action. (A company in Bakersfield handles grave markers for the 35 to 40 others buried at Riverside National Cemetery every day -- mostly veterans of World War II and the Korean and Vietnam wars. Those headstones often arrive well after the funerals.) The national cemetery hasn't called for weeks, so on Thursday, Mehochko spent his morning grinding a beveled edge into the marker for a 63-year-old grandfather who died in December. It's one of about 300 the shop will finish this month.

The headstones at the veterans cemetery are laid flat, into the ground. From a distance, they disappear into rolling, grass-covered hills, shaded by sycamores and Brazilian peppers, creating a lush, green oasis encircled by desert scrub.

The only granite used at the Riverside cemetery is mined from Georgia's Appalachian foothills and honed with a grinding brick -- rather than polished -- to preserve the raw, earthly splendor of solid American stone.

The government specifications for a military headstone are precise: In Riverside, the markers must be 3 inches thick, and either 12 by 18 or 24 by 12, depending on their location in the sprawling graveyard.

Amid the blur of names and simple inscriptions, thoughts of death rarely creep into Mehochko's mind. The joys and sorrows of a lifetime never make it to stone, but at least most of the dates he carves into the granite reveal that most lived long lives.

That's the thing that strikes him hardest when an order comes in from Riverside National Cemetery, especially as he sees birth dates creeping closer to that of his 17-year-old daughter.

"It's really touching," he said. "You think, 'Oh, man, they were 18 years old and they went over there.' "

The loss is never more apparent than during the funerals.

When a World War II veteran is laid to rest, loved ones gather to pay their respects and celebrate a complete life.

"They came back, bought homes, aluminum siding, cars. They raised their children and lived their lives,' " said Jim Ruester, spokesman for Riverside National Cemetery. "It's completely different for those killed in action."

The parents, brothers, sisters and friends who gather for those funerals are so young "it looks like a prom," Ruester said.

At the shop, Herbert will feed the simple inscription for a military marker into a computer and print it out on a machine that cuts the design into a sheet of thick rubber. Mehochko or his 24-year-old assistant, Vince Martinez, will flick out the lettering with a knife and paste the template onto the granite, pounding it down with a mallet.

The headstone then gently rolls in front of a giant sandblaster and is peppered with 200 pounds of fine-grain aluminum oxide, carving the sharp-edged inscription into the stone in 20 minutes.

The engravings must be in "Government" font, without punctuation, and cut a quarter-inch deep to allow for natural black shadow to separate the inscription from the flecked stone.

"They all look the same,"' Herbert said. "In uniform, they also all look the same."


For The Record Los Angeles Times Sunday, September 11, 2011 Home Edition Main News Part A Page 4 News Desk 1 inches; 46 words Type of Material: Correction Headstone maker: An article in the Sept. 10 Section A about the company that produces all of Riverside National Cemetery's grave markers for service members killed in action misspelled the last name of a Sun City Granite co-owner. Her name is Teresa Herbers, not Teresa Herbert.
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