Italian government limits parental rights of gay couples

Activists in Rome demonstrate in favor of rights for gay couples.
Activists in Rome demonstrate in favor of rights for gay couples in 2016. Italian opposition politicians and gay right activists on Tuesday decried moves by Italian Prime Minister Giorgia Meloni’s far-right-led government to limit recognition of same-sex parents’ rights.
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Gay rights activists on Tuesday denounced as homophobic moves by Italian Prime Minister Giorgia Meloni’s far-right-led government to limit recognition of parental rights to the biological parent only in the case of same-sex couples.

The city of Milan has been told to stop officially recording both parents in same-sex couples on city registers. It was the last major city to continue the practice that had been briefly adopted in Rome, Turin, Naples and elsewhere after Italy’s high court in 2016 made it easier for gay people to adopt a partner’s biological child.

The piece of bureaucracy is key to recognizing parental rights for a variety of everyday situations, including authorizing medical treatment and participating in class outings.


The president of Rainbow Families, Alessia Crocini, charged that Rome’s move ordering Milan to stop automatically registering both parents in same-sex households exposed the government’s homophobia.

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“This government is the maximum expression of homophobia,’’ she said. “Meloni says that for a child to grow up well, they need a mother and father, even if decades of research say otherwise. It is insulting to hundreds of thousands of families with two same-sex parents.”

Yuri Guaiana, of the activist group All Out, said the move “throws thousands of families into uncertainty.”

News of the move, which had been communicated to Milan Mayor Giuseppe Sala by the state-appointed prefect, came on the same day that a Senate commission blocked an attempt to recognize birth certificates of the children of same-sex couples issued by other EU states.

Sala pledged to fight for a law conferring rights equally on same-sex parents, but said in the meantime he could not risk putting workers in the city registry office at odds with the government’s decision.

Sala’s administration not only transcribed documents from other countries recognizing the rights of gay and lesbian parents, but also conferred the same recognition on same-sex parents of children born in Italy.


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Other cities had already stopped the practice as administrations changed hands and political winds shifted in Rome. In the absence of such recognition, the non-birth mother or father must go through the adoption process to establish parental rights — something that can take years.

Former Turin Mayor Chiara Appendino, the first mayor to recognize the rights of both same-sex parents without seeking court approval, said the new ban “is only the last slap against these families.” She joined Sala’s call for a law recognizing their rights.

Italy’s Gay Party, formed in 2020 to give political heft to the fight against anti-gay discrimination, estimates that 150,000 children are affected by Italy’s failure to recognize the rights of both parents in same-sex marriages. That includes hundreds in the city of Milan.

Gay Party spokesman Fabrizio Marrazzo called on Italian mayors to subvert the government’s request and register both same-sex parents in an act of civil disobedience.

“When norms are discriminatory, mayors need to have the courage to say so,” he said.