THE LONG GOODBYE

My sister Janet’s piece serves as a reminder that family members in a medical crisis may be placed in opposite corners from each other when making decisions on behalf of a loved one. But the fundamental difference between her philosophy and mine perhaps lies in the headline on the cover of the magazine: “A Daughter Confronts Her Father’s Slow Death.” Yes, Dad is going to die. We all are. But right now he is alive, and although not enjoying the quality of life that he merits, he is glad to be alive. Dad has improved so much since his doctors told us that he was brain dead that it is clear to me he loves life, even under the present circumstances.

So to those who may be faced with decisions that affect another’s life or death, take into consideration the medical situation and the expert advice that you receive. But think about the person involved and what he or she would do in your shoes.

JESSICA KAYE

Los Angeles