How to Coexist With Other Passengers

How to make the flight a little more peaceful:

* Try to get a bulkhead, or front-row seats. They are coveted for their extra leg room and lack of a reclining seat in front, and allow more room for maneuvering with a child. Exit-row seats are child-free zones because the federal government wants passengers there who can open the door in an emergency.

* Car seats made after 1985 can be used on airplanes, but the federal government says rear-facing seats are safer than those that might pitch a child face-first into the seat ahead.

* Pack a diaper bag with plenty of food, toys, diapers, wipes, pacifiers, children’s medications and other essentials. Pick out the best outfit for easy changing.

* Load a bottle for each takeoff and landing. The sucking will help clear the baby’s ears and avoid the pain from cabin pressure changes.

* An air sickness bag with hot water in it makes an excellent baby bottle warmer.

* Coloring books are a hit as well as electronic games, but make it a rule to turn the sound way down or off. Action figures and dolls are good for playing in a confined space. A disposable camera can help fill time and make the child more involved in the trip.

* Before the trip, explain to the child what will happen and how he or she is expected to behave. Tell them about passing through security and Customs. Explain takeoffs and landings and some of the sounds they’ll hear.

* Some airlines offer special meals for children. Be sure to check what your choices are when you buy the tickets.

* Confirm seating assignments ahead of time, so you can be sure your family will sit together.

* If one parent is crossing an international border with a child, notarized permission from the other parent speeds the immigration process.

* If the child has an ear infection, think seriously about canceling the trip.