Adoption: a Blessing of Life the World Over

John Balzar’s Nov. 28 commentary, “Moonbeams and Hope,” was thought-provoking and so much needed. Two nights ago I was disgusted by a story on the late news talking about women who undergo expensive procedures so that they can have children at ages 50 or 60. I found myself yelling at the TV screen. How selfish. Yes, they have the money to afford this travesty, but there are so very many children who need adoptive parents, love and the warmth of a family.

Why must a child have Daddy’s nose and Mommy’s eyes? All children are our children, bound to us by similarities developed through thousands of years of evolution. I applaud the Balzars for recognizing these bonds.

June Chase

Los Angeles

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I applaud Balzar’s celebration of adoption. However, I would like to point out that despite how “warm and fuzzy” adoption is usually represented, there exist many barriers to domestic adoption because the courts and the social welfare establishment have lost sight of what is best for the child. Simply put, what is in every child’s best interest is a safe and nurturing family environment. Period.

In the wake of the Korean War, I--like other Amerasian and displaced peoples, particularly abandoned and orphaned children--posed a dilemma for a devastated nation. To its credit, Korea chose to consider what was best for its children, only to find itself vilified by the world. We must not forget that American missionaries, private individuals and aid organizations facilitated what was then virtually unheard of--trans-racial adoption.

I am an example of a “successful adoption.” Many of my cohorts are not. Sexual, mental and physical abuse were all too common, and no one talks about those who died at the hands of the adults who should have loved and protected us.

David Um Nakase

President, Assn. of Korean

Adoptees, Southern California

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I was happy to read Balzar’s commentary highlighting National Adoption Month but a little bit heartbroken that his focus was on international adoption. There are so many wonderful children here in Los Angeles County who are in need of loving, permanent homes. For those who are considering adoption, I urge you to contact a foster family agency in your area or the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services.

Judy Weinstein

Sherman Oaks