Sharing the love and the pain

Even though I am a single woman, I identified with Ralph Frammolino’s piece (“Feeling the Pain of What Isn’t to Be,” Oct. 2). I think it has something to with “the grass is always greener,” but I’ve never wanted the men who wanted me, and the men whom I wanted never wanted me. If they change their minds and do want me, I don’t want them anymore. It must have to do with one’s self-esteem. Maybe it’s because I’m a Libra, who can never make up her mind, and once I finally do, I’ve missed the boat.

Pam Pomeroy

Norwalk

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Ralph, in spite of your pain, we all need more like you -- men and women alike.

For one human being to love another that is perhaps the most difficult of our tasks; the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation. -- Rainer Maria Rilke

James McChesney Ranson

Laguna Beach