Make Plans Before You Need Them

Backup child care is a little like those other unpleasant subjects--death and taxes--that no one wants to talk about until they are upon us. But work-family specialists say planning is critical where emergency child care is concerned. Here are some suggestions.

* Assume the worst: Sooner or later, your regular child-care system will break down.

* Speak to your regular child-care provider about alternatives. Does he or she have a colleague, friend or relative who might work in a pinch?

* Be clear on your employer’s policies. How much flexibility do you have if an emergency comes up?

* It is never too early to plan for holidays or vacations.

* Talk calmly, rationally and honestly with your spouse or partner about this issue. A relaxed conversation about who stayed home last time, whose job is more flexible and who has a deadline to meet is much more productive than a 7 a.m. shouting match the day you need care.

* Consider your child’s needs. Some children welcome new child-care options as an adventure. Others throw Richter-scale tantrums.

* Network with other parents.