Netherlands celebrates 20 years of same-sex marriage

Rainbow flag on bell tower of Amsterdam church

By MIKE CORDER

Associated Press

April 1, 2021 7:39 AM PT

AMSTERDAM —

A huge inflatable pink cake with candles spouting rainbow flames glided through Amsterdam’s canals Thursday as the city celebrated the 20th anniversary of the world’s first legal same-sex marriages.

Even as residents marked the milestone in LGBTQ rights, the mayor said that striving for equality remained a work in progress.

“At the same time it is a moment to recognize that the struggle is not yet over — not worldwide, not nationally, but also not in Amsterdam,” Mayor Femke Halsema said.

Since the historic event in Amsterdam 20 years ago, same-sex marriage has been made legal in 28 countries worldwide, including the U.S., and also on the self-governing island of Taiwan, the only place in Asia to do so. South Africa is the only African nation to have marriage equality.

Gert Kasteel and Dolf Pasker were celebrating 20 years of married life Thursday. It’s an anniversary made all the more special as they were among the first four couples who tied the knot just after midnight April 1, 2001.

Wearing suits and bow ties, they were married in a ceremony led by then-Amsterdam Mayor Job Cohen in a wedding that made headlines around the world.

“It is very nice to look back to see how young we were,” Pasker said after watching video of the wedding on the evening before the anniversary.

Amsterdam also marked the anniversary by flying a huge rainbow flag from the bell tower of the landmark Western Church, next to the Anne Frank House museum.

Later, the city was holding an online symposium, and it designated a “rainbow walk” route along 20 sites considered important in the struggle for LGBTQ rights.

In the city of Utrecht, Mayor Sharon Dijksma officiated the marriage of Romy Schouten and Jeannette van Nus and said the wedding ceremony should be an example for others.

“To all the boys and girls who are sitting at home and thinking, ‘Maybe I fall for people of the same sex, but I dare not say it,’ the message here is: You can be who you are,” Dijksma said.

Sitting with his husband at a table in their backyard in a small town close to Amsterdam on a warm spring evening Wednesday, Pasker said he was pleased that the trail they blazed had been followed by many other nations.

“Nearly 30 countries followed the Netherlands,” he said, “so that’s really very nice — very good for the gay people and for society as a whole, I think, because it’s important that everyone in society feels at home.”

Henk Krol, a former editor of the Netherlands’ largest gay newspaper, this week called same-sex marriage the country’s “most beautiful intangible export.”

But COC Netherlands, the country’s largest LGBTQ rights organization, also said that work toward full equality was not complete two decades after the first same-sex marriage.

LGBTQ people “still regularly face exclusion, violence and discrimination,” the organization said in a statement.

Pasker agrees, though he says it has not affected his marriage.

“In our private life, it could not be better,” he said. “But we know from newspaper, television and people we speak [to] that there still are homophobic people and there is some aggression to gay people. That’s still a problem.”

But as he counted down to his anniversary, he hoped others could live in the same wedded bliss.

“We wish all gay people in the world that they can have a life as we can live. It’s very important,” Pasker said.