TELEVISION - Dec. 4, 1993

Wedding of the Year?: Tom and Roseanne Arnold have confirmed that they will be “marrying” their assistant Kim Silver, who has reportedly received a 5-carat diamond engagement ring, according to the couple’s spokesman Kevin Campbell, who said he hasn’t been told anything more by the Arnolds. It’s still not clear when or where the ceremony will take place; Campbell quoted Tom Arnold as saying, “I want (to be married in) Iowa, Roseanne wants Paris and Kim wants New Jersey. Women!” When asked how serious the Arnolds are, Campbell just said, “They are confirming reports.” The couple--or, perhaps, threesome--will be at Orange County’s Planet Hollywood on Sunday night for the Tom and Roseanne Arnold Foundation’s first fund-raiser.

* Whoops! There She Is: Whoopi Goldberg, criticized for a fried chicken recipe that offended some Jewish Americans and ex-boyfriend Ted Danson’s blackface skit, says she has nothing to apologize for. “The creepy idea of political correctness is that you don’t have a right to an opinion,” Goldberg said on Thursday’s “Arsenio Hall Show.” “Political correctness is a lot of garbage. It means I have to lie to you. I have no problems with the things I’ve done . . . I’m trying to be good but I’m, like, on the edge. I’m an edgy old broad. Maybe that’s what you get when you blaze new trails.”

MOVIES

Rating Decision: IRS Releasing says they will distribute “Bank Robber,” starring Patrick Dempsey and Lisa Bonet, “in the form that the filmmaker wanted it,” according to spokesman Seth Willenson. The film, written and directed by Nick Mead and scheduled for release Friday, will thus retain the NC-17 rating given by the Classification and Ratings Administration of the Motion Picture Assn. of America, which restricts audiences to those over the age of 17 and for which many publications will not accept advertising.

* Cuban Film Fest Reflects Openness: Havana’s annual Latin American Film Festival opened this week with a Cuban-Mexican joint production that makes an unusual call in Cuban society for fuller acceptance of gay men and lesbians. “Fresa y Chocolate” (“Strawberry and Chocolate”), directed by Cubans Tomas Gutierrez and Juan Carlos Tabio, reflects a plea for more tolerance in a country where only 25 years ago gays were sent to work camps. . . . The festival drew attention from at least one big Hollywood couple--Arnold Schwarzenegger, accompanied by wife and journalist Maria Shriver, who made a day trip to Cuba for the event and reportedly planned to meet with film festival officials.

* AMC Debuts New ‘Kids Room’: If you’ve wanted to see “Mrs. Doubtfire” or “They’re Back” but cringed at the idea of squirming kids in the same audience (or squirmed at the idea of your own kids acting up), AMC Theaters is testing a new idea at its theaters in Chino and Burbank this weekend. Called the “Kids Room,” it sets aside a theater for these two kid-friendly films, while the other auditoriums showing the same films will comply with AMC’s “Silence is golden” policy. “As an industry and as a company, we’re trying to make the moviegoing experience more attractive,” said Gregory Rutkowski, vice president of AMC’s West Coast Operations. Rutkowski declined to speculate which upcoming films would get the same treatment.

EVENTS

Huston, Graham Honored: Tonight, the ACLU’s annual Bill of Rights dinner and fund-raiser at the Westin Bonaventure Hotel honors actress Anjelica Huston, her husband and artist Robert Graham, Lani Guinier and Stanley Sheinbaum with the Bill of Rights Award for their work “on behalf of civil liberties and civil rights.” Gay rights activist Michael Reynolds will receive the Eason Monroe Courageous Advocate Award.

* Tree Lighting: You can get a head start on the holiday spirit Sunday at the 8th Annual Beverly Hills Holiday Lighting Ceremony, which benefits the Starlight Foundation. Actor Treat Williams emcees the event; singer DenieceWilliams and the nuns’ choir from “Sister Act 2” will perform. The free event begins at 6 p.m. at the intersection of Wilshire Boulevard and Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills.

QUICK TAKES

If you have a modem, subscribe to Prodigy’s on-line service and have always wanted to talk to pop star Peter Gabriel, you’re in luck. Gabriel will be appearing “live” on Prodigy’s “Music” bulletin board Monday evening. The event is tied to the release of his interactive CD-ROM, “XPLORA 1.” Prodigy suggests users start logging in their questions now.