Meeting Wouldn’t Be Fair to Twins

* Re “Ex-UCI Patient Seeks to Meet Twins Born to Someone Else,” Feb. 19:

Here are two children who have only known one set of parents their whole life. Then suddenly, through no fault of their own, along come some strangers, the Jorges, who want to intrude in their lives and confuse them and create uncertainty regarding their family and identity.

If the couple truly loved these children and cared about their psychological well-being, they would immediately stop their surveillance activities and threatened litigation.

A court of law does not have the expertise to solve such emotional issues. Litigation only serves to emotionally and financially devastate everyone.

Instead, the Jorges should seek therapeutic help to come to terms with their losses. Likewise, with the aid of a therapist, the birth parents can tell to their children, at a developmentally appropriate age, the story of the circumstances surrounding their conception. Then, it is up to the children to choose whether or not to establish contact with their biological relatives.

DEBRA S. COVEN

San Clemente

* Through no fault of their own the Jorges are enduring a bitter irony: their genetic material (her eggs and possibly his sperm) was successfully used to create life, but that life (twins, actually) was born to a different set of parents.

As heartbreaking as that situation is, it was even more disheartening to learn that the Jorges are prepared to disrupt the lives of the children by insisting on some sort of “contact” with them.

Whose interests are served by such action? Certainly not the children’s; they already have a home and parents.

I implore the Jorges the reconsider their plans and let the other family continue in their present lives without interference. The children deserve nothing less.

SUSAN FUDURICH

Huntington Beach