Column: The Russia-Ukraine war is not the result of a failure of dialogue
It’s an article of various faiths — both secular and religious — that misunderstanding is the cause of conflict. This sort of insight is generally true for individuals, so it’s often considered equally true of nations. Hence vast amounts of antiwar activism and state-level diplomacy rest on the assumption that nations are like people and if we can just get adversaries to talk to each other, and hence understand each other’s perspective, the bloodshed will end or be avoided in the first place.
The only problem: It’s not true.
Consider the Russian invasion of Ukraine. According to Vladimir Putin, Ukrainians are Russians. The Russian president’s long insisted that they are “one people.” In 2021, he issued a 5,000-word manifesto on this theme. I have only revulsion for Putin’s criminal invasion of Ukraine, but Ukraine and Russia do have a deeply intertwined past. That connection doesn’t justify Putin’s attempted annexation of Ukraine any more than it would justify Ukraine in attempting to annex Russia. But it does illuminate how mutual understanding isn’t a safeguard against war.
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Pakistanis and Indians, Israelis and Palestinians, Irish Catholics and Protestants, Serbs and Croats, Hutus and Tutsis, and nearly every other warring group you can think of do not lack for understanding of each other.
Sigmund Freud coined the term “narcissism of small differences” to describe the phenomenon. “It is precisely the minor differences in people who are otherwise alike that form the basis of feelings of hostility between them.”
In his book, “Bloodlust,” Russell Jacoby recounts how civil wars are usually crueler and bloodier than wars between “external” enemies. In the American Civil War, North and South understood each other very well. Brothers, both literally and figuratively, fought each other. Mutual understanding fueled anger rather than dampened it because mutual understanding illuminates the sense of betrayal, even heresy.
Understanding the limits of understanding is essential because if you believe talking is the only solution to conflict (and not merely the most preferable one), your opponent will use talk solely to distract or delay.
More important, this view often fosters sympathy or even support for bad actors on the assumption that they’ve been unfairly misunderstood — and that America is to blame for foolishly “provoking” them, for example.
By confusing explanations for justifications of behavior — Putin feels surrounded! Iran wants a nuke to protect its regime! — this perspective often puts all of the blame for tensions or conflict on America or the West.
I’ve made this point many times before, usually as a critique of left-leaning opponents of American foreign policy who insisted that all tensions stemmed from our misunderstanding of our adversaries.
To listen to some critics of American support for Ukraine, Putin is less a human being with the ability to make decisions and more like a force of nature or a wild animal. Like a grizzly that — understandably! — mauls someone who teases it, Putin is just doing what he must, like some Aesopian creature.
The right’s newfound fondness for Putin and its (“blame America first” mind-set (much like the old Cold War left-wing versions) have much to do with ideological commitments that only tangentially have to do with foreign policy.
For many on the nationalist right, Putin plays the same role that Fidel Castro did for the socialist left — an avatar for a wholesale critique of America. They like him because Putin is “strong,” anti-gay, anti-woke and a Christian nationalist.
The hitch to all of this is that their understanding of Putin is little more than a fantasy. The mastery and competence his fans once celebrated are now a joke. Some 60,000 Russians have died in Ukraine since February— roughly four times the number of casualties in the decade-long Soviet occupation of Afghanistan — and more Russians have tried to flee the country to avoid fighting in this criminally stupid war than have been deployed to Ukraine.
Obviously, we have to take nuclear threats from a sociopath seriously. But Putin is counting on his belief that America and the West are too weak and decadent to save him from a disaster of his own making. The last thing we should do is act like he understands us better than we understand ourselves.
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