High Life / A WEEKLY FORUM FOR HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS : When Love’s Gone Wrong: What Are the Signs?

It’s Valentine’s Eve, but if Cupid’s arrows have been sailing in seemingly strange directions, maybe you’ll need more than a box of candy or red roses to win back your love.

Hot Topics wonders, “How do you know when your boyfriend or girlfriend is seeing someone else? What are the signs?”

“When you walk in on him and another girl and he claims he was playing checkers.”

Jeni Jacobs, 16,

junior, Dana Hills

“He doesn’t talk to me anymore, doesn’t want to be with me. He would rather be somewhere else.”

Sean Craig, 16,

sophomore, Cypress

“When you call and their mother answers and says they’re not home or busy.”

Julie Scudellary, 14,

freshman, Troy

“When they stop wanting to spend every living moment with you.”

Kathy Carlson, 18,

senior, Connelly

“If she starts acting different and doesn’t talk to you as much.”

Richard Tapia, 17,

senior, Orange

“When he won’t talk to you on the phone, gets too busy, and just doesn’t care.”

Lisa Maiffret, 15,

sophomore, University

“They suddenly have a stuttering problem.”

Jan Hunt, 17,

senior, Ocean View

“You feel her slipping away.”

Gabriel Valles, 18,

senior, Cypress

“He doesn’t look you in the eyes anymore when he talks to you.”

Liz Perkins, 15,

sophomore, Dana Hills

“He will be more distant and make more excuses not to see you.”

Lindsay Durham, 15,

freshman, Connelly

“If she’s cheating, I’ll hear it from my friends.”

Fernando Mendoza, 17,

senior, Orange

“He would be lying to you, sneaking around, and not telling you where he is.”

Andrea Nonnweiler, 15,

sophomore, University

“When they call you by another name.”

Priscilla Lee, 17,

senior, Ocean View

“If she doesn’t talk to you as much and avoids certain subjects.”

Tony Hughes, 15,

sophomore, Cypress

“Your boyfriend will start brown-nosing.”

Milana Campbell, 17,

senior, Dana Hills

“They suddenly find fault with little things.”

Amy Taylor, 17,

senior, Troy

“If he becomes distant and starts to spend less time with me.”

Andrea Morales, 17,

junior, Orange

“Hearing it from other people, and when he doesn’t act the same around you--he gets nervous.”

Lori Schrage, 15,

sophomore, University

“When she doesn’t ask you questions when you say you’re going out with your friends.”

Todd Aubin, 17,

senior, Ocean View

“They stop calling, avoid you and just withdraw from you.”

Justine Dudus, 15,

sophomore, Cypress

“When you see him kissing another girl.”

Terri Sesay, 15,

sophomore, Dana Hills

“They don’t talk to you and they give you an attitude.”

Joanna Crane, 17,

senior, Troy

“Distance--meaning either not talking as much or not seeing them as often. They are also distant about things in their personal life, which they don’t feel a need to share anymore.”

Suzanne Shepard, 16,

junior, Connelly

“When he doesn’t want to go out with me when I ask him.”

Ronner Kuo, 16,

sophomore, University

“When she no longer wants to talk on the phone.”

Adam Richards, 17,

senior, Dana Hills

“They suddenly keep on saying they’re too busy to go out with you on a date.”

Heather Gyurina, 14,

freshman, Troy

“When he stops calling you, turns off toward you and isn’t as available, he’s probably cheating on you.”

Kristin Fujita, 16,

junior, Connelly

“If he starts to do less things with you and doesn’t talk to you as much.”

Cori Stroud, 17,

senior, Orange

“When she doesn’t answer my phone calls.”

Greg Charlop, 17,

senior, University

Next Week’s Hot Topic:

How much responsibility should parents bear for their children’s mistakes?

Responses gathered by Maura Johnston (Connelly), Jessica Hulsey (Cypress), Tina Toochinda (Dana Hills), Seema Mehta (Ocean View), Tram Nguyen (Orange), Layne Mosler (Troy) and Claudine Ko (University).

DR, JUDY TSAI